Restraints

How to choose bondage restraints

Bondage is built on trust. Being restrained, or holding the controls, can be thrilling, but it only works when you have both agreed what is happening and know how to stop.

Start with a bondage kit

A beginner bondage kit gives you several pieces in one box. The Loving Joy Beginner's Bondage Kit includes handcuffs, ankle cuffs, a blindfold, rope, a collar and leash and more, while the Bound to Play 11 piece kit adds a feather tickler, nipple clamps and a hog tie.

Handcuffs or cuffs?

Furry handcuffs are lockable metal cuffs with a soft faux-fur cover, a playful classic. Heavy-duty metal handcuffs feel more serious but are less forgiving on the wrists. Buckled or Velcro cuffs, from Bound to Please's beginner styles to BOUND's padded nubuck leather restraints, spread pressure over a wider band and are often more comfortable for longer.

Ties, rope and bed restraints

Door jam cuffs and the Loving Joy Under the Mattress Restraint System need no fixings, and hog ties link wrists and ankles. Bondage rope suits people who want to learn knots or shibari; practise a few simple ties before trying anything complex.

Blindfolds and the senses

A blindfold is the gentlest place to begin. Taking away sight makes every touch more noticeable, with no knots required.

Safety and consent

Agree your limits beforehand and choose a safe word that stops everything immediately, plus a hand signal in case speaking is difficult. Never leave someone who is restrained alone, even briefly. Keep keys and safety scissors within easy reach. Check circulation often: if hands or feet feel cold, tingly or numb, or change colour, release straight away. Never tie or fasten anything around the neck, and never attach a collar or leash to anything that could pull.

Building a scene together? Explore our couples' range, try a bondage-themed game, or pair restraints with lingerie.

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